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How To Find Your Adopted Child

How To Find Adopted Child

Here is additional information on how to find your adopted child.  This post complements our previous article:  Find Adoptee | Search By Date Of Birth Of Child, which we strongly suggest you read first.

Your adopted child’s date of birth, along with just a bit more information about the adoption and the adopting parents may be all you need to find your adopted child.

Our OmniTrace researchers have a lot of experience working with birth mothers attempting to find their adopted child.  We understand how much stress you were under during your pregnancy up until your child was adopted.  There is, of course, a lot you may not recall.  So, you should make every attempt to interview anyone who knew you during that time period.

Of course we understand that anyone who had knowledge of the adoption may now be deceased, or perhaps no one you know has anything helpful to provide you.  But, just in case, attempt to speak with:

  • Your parents–if they helped you facilitate the adoption.
  • Other members of your family– if they have any knowledge (e.g.: aunt, uncle).
  • Friends of your parents to see if they were told anything–they may recall some small morsel about the adoption and your adopted child that might assist you.
  • Former neighbors of your parents during the time of your pregnancy– to see if they were told anything.  There is a chance that your parents shared some information about the adoption with them.  Make sure that you bring some pictures of yourself taken around the time of your pregnancy.  These may jar memories.
  • Your family physician and/or birth physician during the time of your pregnancy–if the family physician and/or birth physician is still alive, they may recall something about the adopting parents and/or circumstances surrounding the adoption.
  • Your family attorney during the time of your pregnancy– if an attorney handled the adoption, contact him/her for information.  If the attorney is deceased, he may have left his records with a partner or a family member that took over his practice.

Okay, so hopefully you have found someone to speak with who has information about the adoption.  Make sure you review and have all the facts at hand that you have developed to date.  Try to conduct your interview in person; you may obtain more details this way than by phone or letter.  There may be many small bits and pieces of information that they might have that they don’t realize are important.   Write a list of everything that you want to cover.  At the very minimum, you’ll want to ask:

  • What can you tell me about the adopting family?
  • Where were the adopting parents residing when the baby was born?
  • Do you recall the adopting parents names?
  • What were the ages the adoption parents?
  • Do you know if the adopting parents had any other children (adopted or natural)?
  • What was the educational background of the adopting parents?
  • What was the religion of the adopting parents?
  • When did the adopting parents pick up the baby?
  • Do you know if the adopting parents paid any of my medical bills?
  • Did you ever see the adopting parents?  If yes, can you describe them?
  • Can you recall any information about the birth physician?
  • Can you recall any information about the adoption agency?
  • Can you recall any information about the adoption attorney?
  • Do you recall the names of any social workers?
  • Was my child placed in foster care?
  • When was the adoption of my child finalized?
  • Did we receive a legal notice of adoption by mail or in a legal newspaper?
  • Was my birth child named at birth?
  • Do you recall what name the adopting parents gave to my birth child?
  • Did the adopting family ever try to make contact with me? Did they send any letters, photos, or mementos to my parents that were withheld from me?

Your interview may go in many directions.  You may be told something that surprises you, and you may forget to ask everything that you had planned.  So, be sure to cover all the questions that you have on your list. And, write everything down!

Shortly, we are going to post articles on:  (1) contacting the adoption agency (2) contacting the birth hospital and (3) we’ll address some secret methods that professional search companies like OmniTrace use to find an adopted child when you have reached a dead end and all seems hopeless.

Please post a comment if you have any questions.

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  1. Desiree says:

    I am looking for my husband’s half brother. We have the following information and if you know him or you are him, please contact us.

    Name of adoptee after adoption? Michael Jonathan Mitchell
    Name of adoptee before adoption? James L Duane Jones
    Birthdate of Adoptee? June 14, 1970
    State of birth? Oregon
    City of birth? Portland
    County of Birth? Washington
    Gender of adoptee? Male
    State of Adoption? We believe Oregon
    City of Adoption? We believe Portland
    County of Adoption? We believe Washington
    Name of birth mother? Nancy An Jones

    The gentleman adopted posted on in 2005 and stated he was a teacher with his masters.

  2. Jodie says:

    Hi I’m looking for desiree Marie Ann last name at birth (Hamilton)last name was changed during adoption in 2005.she was born 1/8/96 in Indiana to my sister laurie Harwood Desiree is 19yrs old (mixed) goes by desiree, dessi or des. If found please email me or call we’ve been looking all over for her since 2008 miss her very much we were very close! Im her aunt JODIE. SHES welcome to add me on facebook also posted on several adoptee sites and social media sites (twitter,instagram,facebook.

  3. rebecca says:

    I am looking for my grandson named Dashon Anthony morgan-Snook at birth, born sept 29 1997 Portland or. he was falsely taken by cps.

    • Theodore Williams says:

      That’s excacly what happened in my case i fill your pain lets get them girl thanks u

      • rebecca says:

        how do we find them when we don’t know what state they were taken to ,or where adoption was finalized

        • Dana says:

          Hi Rebecca. Please call OmniTrace if you would like a licensed private investigation agency to conduct your search for you. We work around sealed records and leave no stone unturned.

          Call now for a free search consultation!



  4. Shirley says:

    I was told I would meet my daughter after 18. I cannot find the agency that I went through. Ive been searching for years. It was a christian adoption agency out of Ohio and they said I could meet her someday. I don’t believe in abortion, but this is way too long. please help me find her.She was born 10-15-1986 in Greenville Ohio

  5. Nicole says:

    I was told by the ministry after they apprehended my two children and then finalized the open adoption they asked me for any last requests and I asked to be able to see both children and hug and kiss them my son Alexander Allen Richard sturm born in Abbotsford bc March 5 2001 he is now gonna be turning 14 soon and I just want to talk to him on phone every now and again and maybe meet him I have no idea what city he lives in or any info on adoptive parents except that first names given to me by them were Trent and Melissa my daughter name is angel lee tabitha sturm she was born October 14 2005

  6. Traevon says:

    I’m looking for some advice… My little brother Joseph Antonio Noir Hissett was born on 06-27-1997 and got adopted when he was 7 or 8 and will be 18 this June and I would love to fined him but I keep hitting dead ends and I recently found out that his last name was change when the adoption was finaled so if anyone can give me some advice it would be much appreciated…..

  7. Blair says:

    I am looking for my daughter, born in Dallas,Texas Feb.14TH ,1975 Hope Cottage? Baylor U? About 3A.M.

    • Dana says:

      Hi Blair. Thanks for posting your information on our Facebook page. We’d like to speak with you about your search. Please call us. Our number is 1-888-965-6696. Thanks!

    • Dana says:

      Hi Blair. Please call OmniTrace. We can likely assist you. 1-888-965-6696. Thanks!

  8. Elizabeth says:

    I’m looking for any of my mother’s relatives….last name Corbitt…she died in August 86 at Harlem hospital….I was born in March 86…she lived in Queens….may be related to some Moore’s also….she was also protestant….Don’t know her first name….my father last was Carr or Karr from the Bronx…..He was a preacher….anyone with information please call thank you

  9. Natasha says:

    I’m helping my sister look for her daughter, she’ll be 18 in April. Please help. Knoxville, TN

    • Dana says:

      Hi Natasha. Please call us at your convenience to discuss this search in a bit more detail. Our number is 1-888-965-6696. Thanks.

  10. Nikki says:

    My husband was in the navy and dated a girl who got pregnant. He has to go out to sea and saw her during the pregnancy and after and she told him she had given the baby up for adoption. He was told it was a boy named Christopher lee smith born But she didn’t say if she had him in either Florida or North Carolina where she had family in January of 1991. Is there anyway of being able to locate him? My husband didn’t give his consent to adopt the baby out

    • Dana says:

      Hi Nikki. Can you please call one of our search consultants when you can? Our toll free number is 888-965-6695. Thanks.

  11. BRIANDA says:


  12. Laura says:

    Today I finally called my adopted father named donald decamara I was trying to find out if he knows who my mom is. He thinks this is her name mendez mendoza. My birthday is December 17, 1980. I live in san diego. I have green eyes and black and brown hair.

    • Dana says:

      Thanks for posting. If you would like professional search assistance, please call at 1-888-965-6696. Thanks!

  13. Rahmana Muhammad says:

    I am searching for my niece my sisters daughter she was born 4/2/96 in a womens prison at birth she was named Amirah Muhammad or Michaels she was adopted in 1997

  14. Rahmana Muhammad says:

    she was born in florida

  15. Malinda says:

    How do I find out if the adoption if my daughter with my aunt and uncle has been finalized? Since I agreed to let them adopt her, do I ever have a chance if getting her back? Thanks

  16. kelly says:

    Im looking for my daughter born 06/16/1987…adoption.
    I named my baby,Carrie Rena’ Stoots…please know I never wanted to give you up Carrie,I have loved you my whole life,.mom…

  17. kelly says:

    My baby was born 06/16/ freeman hospital in Joplin mo.i love you my daughter!!….mom…

  18. Thais Kuestner says:

    I had a brother born on July 3, 1969 in Episcopal Hospital in Philadelphia, Pa. My parents were told that he died at birth. However, my parents were not given birth or death certificates and when my father requested to see him, the doctor first said OK. Later, my dad was told by the doctor, “You don’t want to see a dead baby.” . My mom was devastated and was told by the doctor, “I don’t know why you’re so upset, you can have more babies.”. My brother was delivered by a nurse because the doctor was at lunch. I believe he may have been taken and used in black market adoption. I hear that was very common in the 50’s and 60’s. I need info on where Ineed to begin a search for documents to prove that he died or not.

  19. hazel says:

    my name is hazel I had a daughter named cadence and then another daughter named Marcellus I would like them to know I never wanted to give them up and I hope I can find them to see them again I love them so much if there’s anything anybody can do to help find them please email me they were adopted out cadence is 7 and Marcellus is5 I miss them so much I heard they were around Silsbee Texas I don’t mean no harm I just want to see my children I was very young when they got adopted

  20. Jennifer says:

    I am looking for my son Dylen Alazay Denman Castor. He was born December 13,1999

    • Dana says:

      Hi Jennifer. Thanks for posting. We hope we can assist you. Can you please call us at 1-888-965-6696? Thanks!

  21. ethel says:

    please help me find my son john paul aanderson jr

  22. Hi my name is irene Salinas my son was adopted out I live and miss him. His name use to be Gregory Lamar Michael Salinas 1/21/01 sav Ga he is mixed with black and white and I'm white please if you might know him or be him call me not a day goe says:

    Gregory lamar michael Salinas I hope to meet you son asap my name is Irene Salinas you were born 1/21/01 mixed black and white birthmark on top of foot call me I love you

  23. cathy says:

    I’m desperate to find my son Isaac Sebastian Juarez born indio ca at JFK memorial hospital on September 0309 waS taken from me. Wen he was 9 mths adoption was file in 2010

  24. Cynthia Maria Butler says:

    Hi my name is cynthia and I lost my boys to the state of florida my oldest be twenty this year and his brother 17 I so much love them did everything they wanted but still lost them please I am on disability and very low income I just want my babies back in my life again before I die.

  25. lisa says:

    Hi ive been in search of my daughter her name i believe is kelly. She was born on november 3rd 1993. She is now 21years old. I no the adopted parents names are Tom and Linda. I believe they lived in Buffalo Grove a suburb of Chicago. I found them in an add in agencies.we went threw their lawyer in Chicago. I want to find her but i dont even no where to start. I have little money. Please help me find my girl? My name is lisa Oliva

  26. lisa says:

    I forgot to mention she was born in Aurora at copley rush hospital

  27. Ashley says:

    I just want to know my babies are ok! Cps fooled us and took our 4yr old daughter who is 6 now and her her name then was Kyra Michelle Cruz, birthday 3-15-09 and also our 2yr old son who is now 4 and his name then was Eric Jermaine cruz birthday 3-09-11. I know nothing except they were adopted. They were taken in sealy tx and then we moved bellville TX and then brenham TX. We done everything our case worker said and then she turned her back on us in the end in Court. I miss them so bad. I have never been the same since. Something inside me died. I love my babies so much still to this day and I will forever. I just wish I could see them again but if I can’t I would at least like to know their ok.

  28. Tonia says:

    My husband had a son in 1994,the girl that he had the baby with was forced by her mother to adopt him out without his knowledge. For years we have been trying to figure out where to start in finding him and are getting nowhere, can you help. We live in Wichita,Ks. The baby was adopted out here also.