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Do Not Waste One More Single Waking Moment, Begin The Search

Here is a powerful e-mail we received from our client: Steven Benasher.  Although the e-mail was sent to us, it was obviously meant for all those touched by adoption:

“41 years is a long time, by anyone’s standards. It is also my age, which doesn’t feel like a long time. 33 years ago is ancient history to some folks. To me, it was just the number of years I knew I was adopted. My parents told me when I was seven. It was easy for me. I had the best parents, the best childhood, the best education. So, why complicate my life and others by trying to find my birthparents? I could live with the curiosity. And I did.

Then all of a sudden, as if nothing else had occurred in my life, I was staring into the face of my daughter, barely one minute old. The gravity and reality of the decision my birthparents made crystallized before me. No human being could give up their child, their flesh, and then forget. I had to find my mother, period.

Omnitrace looked good on paper, and checked out as a solid company. But I decided to trust them because they listened and understood my needs. They asked the difficult questions without judging the answers.

It took a year. They gave me periodic updates, they were understanding when I felt frustrated, and they found my mother. And now, we are both going to be okay.

I spent 33 years talking myself out of doing something which needed to be done. Do not waste one more single waking moment, begin the search.”

Find Your Birth Family

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  1. Sharon Pell says:

    Not like you I grew up with my birth mother who as a Catholic girl did a great injustice to her faith and her family by having me out of weddlock but, my mother showered me with love and so did the entire galgano family I was one of them no matter how I came into this crazy world. My mother worked hard and raised me by herself with every bit of love, understanding and I know that it was the hardest thing she has ever done. I was a crazy kid and I am now the mother of two of the craziest most beautiful loving girls I could have imagined being blessed with. My husband and my girls biological dad have meen married for about 14 years and my girls are 13 nad 11. As I see my husband (and the love of my life different story but equally as important) I see what a real father is all about. Although my mother did a wonderful job I also know what she gave up to raise me by herself. My father gave up his rights to me when I was 3 and he and his wife had a family of there own. He was reluctant to sign but my mother and my family felt it was best. This was 33 years ago and I have half heartedly tried to find him and my siblings but on my own I did not have the tools or the courage to go any farther. Now after living with a terrible disease that has tested the strength of my marriage (it it very strong) and my precious time with my girls I want to find my missing link for the sake of my mental and physical health. Your e-mail was insperational and I hope to have a simular result.

    Please excuse my spelling errors I type as fast as my brain can come up with info and the spelling gets lost in the shuffle ( did I mention that I have adhd on top of crohns disease) I love life I love family and I would love to know my father.
    Enjoy your birth mother as you have enjoyed your parents that gave their hearts and most of all enjoy your little girl and your daughters mother the best things in life are the ones we can hold in our hearts, and our arms. Some how these gifts make an imprint on our souls!!!

    Thank you for reading my story

    Sharon Galgano Pell

  2. KAREN says:

    JUNE 18 1986 BEFORE NOON VICKIE LYNN LOWTHER KELLER , GAVE BIRTH TO A BABY GIRL SHE NAMED ASHLEY ANN LOWTHER. DR. CASTILLO OF CYPRESS FAIRBANKS MEDICAL CENTER OF HOUSTON TX, delieved her , IT WAS AND OPEN ADOPTION .IF ANYONE HAS ANY INFORMATION ARE KNOWS ANYTHING ON THE WHERE ABOUT OF ASHLEY ANN LOWTHER WE`LL GREATLY APPREAITE IT ..ASHLEY `S NAME MAY HAVE BEEN CHANGED , THE ADOPTED PARENTS DID LET MY SISTER NAME HER..IF ANYONE KNOWS ANYTHING PLEASE CONTACT ME..COLLECT @985-385-0676 OR 985-714-2070..

  3. KAREN says:

    THIS CHILD ISN`T MINE,- BUT A BIG PIECE OF MY
    HEART IS RIPPED OUT OF ME ..I COULD NEVER EVER EMAGINE,THE HURT ,THE PAIN,THE GUILT OF HAVING TO GIVE UP YOUR BABY YOU BORED FOR .NINE MONTHS
    AND THEN GIVE IT AWAY..KNOW WONDER USE AS WOMEN HAVE MENTAL BREAK DOWNS , AND TAKE OUR OWN LIFES, WHAT IS THERE LEFT TO DO, TO YALL YOU WOMEN OUT THERE GOD BLESS YOU ALL , AND LET THERE BE PEACE,AND STRENGTH STORED UPON YOU WHILE YOU MOURING FOR THE REST OF YOU LIFE, GOD BLESS ALL YOU !!!!KAREN M KELLER

  4. Heendeniya says:

    Alison Folks was born at Bedford General Hospital in the United Kingdom on 30. 05. 1966 – Please help to find her !

  5. Heendeniya says:

    Alison’s mother JILL wants so badly to find her – please make contact. My friend Jill’s e-mail address is: jilljones@postmaster.co.uk

  6. Heendeniya says:

    Is there any other direct and quick way of Jill finding her daughter. Jill now lives in France, is 62 years old and quite lonely. She has never forgotten Alison and has only now got the courage to make contact. Please get in tough – pleaeaeaease !!!!!!!!!!!

  7. I have never met my father’s birth family. He is now dead. These people were given the last name O’keefe or Tansy. They may still be in Boston,Mass or even Arizona? Please help if you can?

  8. My parents were both born in Boston Mass. My father was adopted by an English family named, Fitzgerald. His mother was named Adeline Tansy, his father had the last name O’keefe. I have never met these relatives at all. If you notice anyone in or outside the Boston area bearing these last names please let me now.

  9. Can you please help me find my birth family plesae im 28 years old now and i dont know anybody in my real family. thank you very much for your help laurie marie tapia born July 25, 1978.

  10. I was in and out foster homes to when turned thirten years of age,all i know my real birth mothers name her,michelle tapia,dadsname is charles berrier,and i have two sisters that i don’t even know and i would really appreciate if you could help look for them sorry i don’t know my sisters name! thank you laurie m tapia

  11. Well for starters i have two beautiful kids and i would really like for every one in my family to meet us my little boy is eleven years old, daugther is ten years of age now can you please help and quit asking me to give you qoutes after qoutes please because it’s even harder on me thank you well im going to tell you about my self now i start college on the eleventh of January,2007 and im proud of my self .thank you again. laurie m, tapia

    • Doretha says:

      Hi. I have often wondered about you and how you were doing. I am glad that you are happy and have both of your kids; I consider you my daughter and your children my grandchildren, and I would love to see all of you. If your birthdate is 07/25/1980 then I am sure you are the same Laurie that used to call me Mommy. It might interest you to know also that you now have a sister who will be graduating from high school in a few months. Contact me if you are that same Laurie.

    • Liz says:

      Your sister Ivey is searching for you. You also had twin Brother/Sister, but sadly your sister Darla passed away last year.

  12. carol goodwin says:

    hi my name is caorl and i am writing to tell you about what has happend to me in the last two years. you see i have 7 children that i love dearly but unfortunatly untill 2 years ago i only had contact with my oldest child a son who i love with all my heart and he and i have been looking for a long time for the rest of my children and his siblings you see in 1975 i gave birth to my second child a little girl but i put her up for adoption not of my own choice but i did it i was only 19 at the time and felt at the time that it would be too hard to raise two children on my own i did give her a name at birth but knew that who every adopted her would change that name well 2 years ago my son got a phone call from his father and told him that a young women had called him and said that she was looking for her brother and birth mother and his name came up in her search well any ways as it turned out the young girl was my daughter who we had been looking for and since that time we have met and had meny wonderfull times toghether but we were not done as we had 5 more children to find you see i had remmarried and had 5 more childern that i love vrey much but when my yongest of the 5 was only 3 years old i had some problems and my husband thier father had left me and i was on my own with 5 children from the agaes of 8 to 3 and was having a hard time with all of it by my self so out of my love for my children i again gave them up again not because i did not love them or want them but because i wanted to them to have something i could not give them at the time and it hurt me very much to do this but i knew in my heart that it was the best thing for them at the time well not too long ago my daughter called me and said to me mom are you sitting down and i said no why and she said well you need to sit down so i did and i am so glad that i did she was calling me to tell me that she belived that she had found one more of my daughters and that she was going to try and contact her to see if it was who we were looking for well the very next day she called me back and said mom not only did i find her but i have also found two more of the boys that night my youngest daughter called me on the phone and i cryed so much because it had been over 18 years since i had herd her sweet voice and before we all knew it we had found one more of my sons as well and in all of that time since that call 6 of my seven children have been able to meet each other and have become very close and it was a wonderfull christmass this year with them as well but we are still looking for one more the final girl she is the second oldest girl the oldest of the 5 i had to give up we all miss her and hope to find her very very soon my bigest dream is to have all seven of my children toghether for the very first time it is a picture that i have been longing for a very long time sincerly carol goodwin

  13. Melanie Wray says:

    I tried to contact my birth parents through legal channels. Money down and no luck left me with no information. That was 7 years ago. Over the past 2+ years I have been to countless Dr. appointments trying to find the source of problems. They think I have MVPS, FMS, etc. It would help a great deal if I at least had a medical history to compare to my own. Please help find my biological parents! My adoptive parents are wonderful and I know I have their support in this venture.

  14. TIMOTHY J SIMMONS says:

    MY NAME IS TIMOTHY J SIMMONS AND I AM LOOKING FOR MY FATHER ROBERT LEE SIMMONS HE DISAPPEARED WHEN I WAS VERY YOUNG MY MOTHER ELIZABETH WYATT WON’T GIVE ME INFORMATION ON WHY6 HE LEFT OR IF HE IS STILL ALIVE HIS LAST KN ADDRESS IS VIRGINA I NEED TO FIND MY FATHER ANYONE WHO CAN HELP WOULD BE GLADLY APPRECIATED

  15. lila ahmad says:

    iam trying to help my btother find his son he is 34 years old he has not seen his son since he was 4years old his birthday dec 4 1994 he willbe 13 name ali natour his mothers maiden name is judith hernandez they r in illinois but we cant find them my nephew can you help

  16. Charles COurtney says:

    I really was wondering if i could find about my grandmother Sarah Jane Samuels real mother?please can you contact me back

  17. Dianne Walker says:

    please help me find my bio.mother and or father My adopted name is Dianne Karen Walker born in Los Angeles CA on March 6, 1958.My adopted father name was Dean Edgar Walker & my mothers name Rita Emma Walker, her maiden name was Rita Emma Benson.

  18. santiago(jim)robledo says:

    my name is santiago im about to be 42 and im a stepchild, i was adopted when i was very very young i still have dreams ofmy real father ive known my whole life that im adopted my stepdad was very mean to me, so mean that i cant ever have kids over it. well my whole life has been into drugs, my mom pasted away in 2002 of a drug overdose my stepdad pased away in 2005 over drugs it almost happened to me,i changed my whole life around im 1 year 1month clean and sober ,my mom would never answer my questions about my dad so now that im good , i feel lost ive tryed to find my dad ,been very close but everone wants money from me im not a rich man and its been along hard road for me and its hard times but i belive that good things will happen if i stay positive (the law of attraction) thanks for letting me free my sprit .

  19. shelia stancil says:

    Can you please find my daughter for me she was taken from me 5 years ago and put up for adoption. I have her s.s. # if that will help. Can you please help me?

  20. wendi says:

    God Bless You and Your Mother!!!I know the pain, i was that child also!!! and still do not know all the final truths of my life and birth, but God does and thats all that matters and in his time, the pieces will fall!!!! thanks for sharing your story, you are here because god wanted you to be born!!!!!!!!!

  21. jo cummings says:

    you know, I have surfed the internet countless hours to try to find our daughter that was adopted at birth. my story is a little different, but still resonates the same emotions. i am still trying to find a great organization to locate her. my husband and I have been married for 32 years, and have 3 children. 2 that we had and raised after we were married, and one daughter that we had when i was 16 years old. like you said, i thought all was well, after all we did the “right” thing according to my mother, who did not give me a choice in the matter.
    every day i thought about her and how she was. my husband & i felt guilty about having our other 2 children and not her. much later we learned that my mother actually sold my daughter through an attorney in miami. yes, she actually made money on the adoption of our daughter.you see she was what the business calls a humanitarian. she provides a home, food, and guarantees dr visits for the expecting mother. in return she is paid dearly for the placement of a healthy baby. i was pulled out of school, and placed in “sciesis”, a school for unwed mothers. i was not allowed to see family or friends for 7 months. i learned that i had embarrassed my parents, and they had to get rid of the embarrassment. at the time we really thought we were doing the right thing. now, though, i’m not sure. not until we find her and know that she was taken care of. i pray to god that she was placed with a loving family. i pray that is the one thing that my parents didn’t lie about. i am hoping that omni trace is the organization that can find her.